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Innocent or Not

 


My deep reflection into my past hurts deeply, and I'd like to say this: rape is more painful for a non-virgin than a virgin. 

A virgin, as in this case, only feels deprived of her choice of who she wants to be with first, and it can be depressing because it makes one feel pointless for abstaining all this time. What makes it better is that you were able to open up to someone and say, "He took my virginity after saying no!" Some reactions can be annoying afterwards, but not in all cases.

For a non-Virgin, it's hurtful, depressing, and devastating. When you open up, what you hear is, "At least you enjoyed it; it wasn't your first time!" My no is my no, and my yes is my yes. Either I'm a virgin or not. It is really depressing when you open up to someone, the person works up to the culprit, and the next thing he says is, "Why are you even fighting? At least she's not a virgin." That audacity is more painful than the rape. So a lot of people suffer in silence, and because they know you can't talk, they come back feasting on your pain.

Let's make the world a safe place for everyone. Getting the consent of the lady is more important than whatever it is you want. Take, for instance, if she's your sister or daughter. The pain you put people through is traumatising. 

Also, to ladies that take delight in lying that a man raped them when he didn't, it has deprived many of us of the actual voice we need. Reporting a rape case is now very hard, and your selfish reasons have deprived your fellow genders of the voice they need.

If a man offends you, treat that offence seriously and stop using rape as a means of getting back to a man. Many of the reported rape cases are lies, and this has made the actual victim look like a liar. My fellow gender Let's make the world a safe place.

I was raped.

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  1. @AdeoluwaJuly 23, 2024 at 1:51 PM

    Well said but my point is that both require pains but that of non virgin is serious ooh but may God help us all. If you are raped just forget about that life still goes on.

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